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Trading lemons for mojitos

By Tilly Smith Dix

A dear friend recently commented kindly on my motto of awakening grateful (most) mornings. I pondered this and realised how different we think as we age.

Yes, ageing is a privilege and if we do so in good health, life is a charm. However, seeing the signs of ageing in ourselves and coming to grips with the many things we did with such ease, such as running in stilettos without breaking a sweat or a hip, could now easily send us into a deep depression. Gulp…

We’ve all gone through ups and downs in life and some, I’d say, encounter more obstacles than others. If we get deep and dark about that, we could end up clinging to that black dog for eternity, especially when we’d often attracted Machiavellian souls.

Enter reality. If we could behold those magical sunrises, savour the sun on our faces during a stroll or even a few chores in the garden, embrace the wildlife, birdlife, our pets, watch a beautiful sunset, have a secure roof over our heads, delicious food in our stomachs, and at least one good friend, not to mention family we’d not wish to trade for a mega-yacht, we have plenty to be grateful for.

Pictured above, a sunrise over the Yarra Valley, a sunset on the Mornington Peninsula, and birdlife will always balance the dopamine levels.

Okay, so about that yacht… hie, no, tempted as I might be, my family is pure joy and having the pixies hug me and laugh with me, not to mention now wearing my old clothes as they are growing way too fast, I am grateful for the ears on my head (which still hear just fine), otherwise my head would be split in half by a smile that goes all the way around…

Yes, we all have happy as well as sad stories, and often those sad stories seem to overwhelm us and overshadow the good times. We recall allowing belligerent personalities to turn us into irascible creatures at times too, which always put us in a losing position.

If we focus on one thing that brings us joy in the morning when awakening, it’s amazing how quickly all the other wonderful things that don’t cost a fortune will line up to remind us how lucky we are.

A friend from long ago recently said just because we miss something, or someone, it does not mean we want it or them back. This is profoundly true. We are human, we will be sentimental, feel alone at times, or simply in a forgiving mood, remembering the best of times.

Then we snap back into reality and recall why we walked away from upsetting situations and people who hurt us. It is healthy to just go with it, and in the end, good sense will prevail when we realise how far we’ve come. Then gratitude steps in for now having peace of mind.

Of course, when the lemons life hurls at us are seen as lessons and only moments in time for us to move on from, we’ve beaten the battle. Our ability to turn those sour little devils into lemonade, limoncello, margaritas, mojitos, or a dirty martini, or whatever else we choose to bring a happy grin to our face, adds energy to gratitude. Hmmm, that dirty martini is calling me now… or was it the mojito… decisions, decisions!

Travels without my aunt

It’s no secret that I always had a penchant for five-star safaris and how eco-conscious Tau Game Lodge in the wonderous Madikwe Game Reserve in South Africa bordering the wilds of Botswana, always topped my expectations.

My memories of Tau, in short, include warm, welcoming staff; a large verdant waterhole, which is overlooked by the hospitality decks, accommodation, and two swimming pools. Having game come to you is pure joy. Taking a game drive conducted by caring, knowledgeable rangers, who also understand the medicinal purposes of many native plant species growing in the reserve, is addictive.

Then there is the prolific birdlife, always tangible around the lodge waterhole too. Watching birds and all the creatures of the wild deftly side-stepping the seemingly lazy crocodiles while one is dining outdoors overlooking that paradisal vista, is magical.

Pictured above, memories of luxe safaris at Tau, the place of the lion – one of the kings of the wild just catching some son.

Winter at Tau conjures up warm blankets on safari drives, large log fires at dinner, delicious warming toddies, and authentic local treats during safari pitstops, always under the watchful eye of a ranger, followed by convivial conversations at dinner.

Tau Game Lodge is family-friendly, malaria-free, and laden with the Big Five, and so much more, such as the endangered African wild dog families thriving in the reserve. My favourite sightings over the years? Leopard and elephant, not to mention playful lion cubs pushing their mothers’ patience to the limit. Did I mention the intimate Tau Spa Oasis overlooking the bush? See more at www.taugamelodge.co.za

Croatia’s lesser-travelled Istria

I’ve talked to so many intrepid travellers singing the multiple praises of Croatia. However, as most people are now travelling by boat, the big cruise ships are mostly anchoring in the larger cities. I highly recommend a visit to the lesser-known regions, where one is able to soak up the authentic culture, people, and hearty food.

My visit to the Istrian Peninsula, which happens to be the largest peninsula within the Adriatic Sea and close to the Italian border, comprising majestic mountains, charming towns, and smaller fortified cities, such as Rovinj, totally rocked my world some years ago.

I did get to travel on a boat, which was more like a creaking tub, touring the surrounding islands for a day, which included Marshal Tito’s home in the Bijela villa. It was fabulous.

Pictured above, Rovinj and Pula on Croatia’s panoramic Istrian Peninsula.

Lunch comprised the catch of the day, served with delicious fresh local produce, which the Croats take pride in. The breathtaking beauty of the coastline, not to mention the scrumptious food and charm of Rovinj and the surrounding ancient country towns, is a memory I will treasure for as long as memory serves me. As for the entertainment in Pula and its remarkably well-preserved Roman arena and port, I highly recommend a visit.

So, my advice? Get off the beaten track, avoid hordes of tourists and get into the true heart of the country. You won’t regret this scenic slice of delight bordering Italy and Slovenia – go to www.istria-istria.hr

More hair with Vegamour

I was recently approached to collaborate with Vegamour and gifted with a generous selection of GRO Hair Serum, GRO Biotin Gummies, GRO Lash and Brow Kit, GRO Scalp Detoxifying Serum, GRO Dry Shampoo, GRO Shampoo and Conditioner, and a GRO Scalp Revitalising Massager.

As is customary, I agreed to test and use the product for several weeks to ensure results were positive before I’d write a review on this blog.

I’m avoiding synthetic formulas and the Vegamour plant-based formulas for hair wellness, developed with scientifically proven ingredients, convinced me it was worth a try. After all, it is a known fact after a certain age, women also start losing hair and this has annoyed me no-end. Someone recently mentioned how we should be mindful of products we use on our heads as it surely could affect the brain! It made sense.

My skin has remained fairly elasticised because of the serums I’ve used for many years, whilst also taking the alphabet in vitamins and essential minerals daily, including collagen.

However, my hair still needed assistance! I’d stopped using colour some years ago, as I found my hair was suffering, so, I’ve gone graciously silver (well, at first, I did drop a few not so gracious profanities in private as it seriously miffed me).

Those days of modelling hair products and showing off a mane that could change colour regularly just for fun, yet remain glossy in my twenties were long gone. Even my long lashes had thinned out somewhat. As for the chocolate-box nails of long ago, they were letting me down too – sod it!

Pictured above, my happy hair with Vegamour. If this is what these products do for my senior hair after several weeks of use, I can only imagine how it would respond to the GRO volumizing range – watch this space.

Enter Vegamour to the rescue. I can honestly say I’ve seen obvious improvement in the texture of my hair. It seems stronger, whilst showing visible signs of thickening again! Even my eyebrows are improving. I gave up on those years ago after plucking them to copy Twiggy’s look in 1969, and they never grew back! Okay, I’ve never been hairy on my body, but the lashes and tresses were always healthy and strong.

I’m now a fan for life and among the many positive international reviews I’ve seen, I like that InStyle magazine raved about the brand too.

The company’s holistic approach to hair wellness incorporates clinically tested plant-based ingredients that work in tandem to promote healthy, beautiful hair naturally. By avoiding the use of harmful chemicals or short-term fixes that could lead up to long-term hair and skin problems, Vegamour focuses on the power of nature through the lens of science to produce the ultimate in total hair wellness.

The founder, Dan Hodgdon, spent summers working on his uncle’s organic farm in Vermont, New England. Whilst his farming cousins referred to him as a useless city slicker, it did not take long for Dan to notice that all life on the farm was dependent on the symbiotic relationship between living organisms and the many elements that comprise the environment.

When everything in nature is in balance, the mineral, nitrogen and pH levels of the soil, the hours of direct sunlight, the frequency and source of water, the weather, insects, and animals thrive.

Bioavailability means ingredients could only be effective if it can be absorbed and synthesized by the body. This is just one of the holistic concepts in practise by Vegamour. The ethically harvested high-quality natural actives and fair-trade partnerships with the communities that produce the ingredients prove how growth is possible on so many levels.

This inside out approach to create the optimal ecosystem for hair wellness appeals to me and I’m loving the progress in my hair health. See more at www.vegamour.com – I’m thrilled it’s available online in Australia too at www.au.vegamour.com

Absorbing culture

Sunset Boulevard at the Princess Theatre in Melbourne city, starring Sarah Brightman as Norma Desmond and Tim Draxl as Joe Gillis, alongside a stellar cast, was spellbinding. Andrew Lloyd Weber’s musical genius, together with a thrilling reimagination of the show, stunning costumes, and atmospheric sets, transported the audience into another dimension. A triumph, and to be honest, I prefer the warmer, richer timbre in Sarah Brightman’s now mature voice.


Melbourne is always a marvel and at night it seems even more cosmopolitan and sophisticated. A scrumptious pre-show snack and delicious bubbles at Federici adjacent to the Princess Theatre proved the perfect choice.

Pictured above, gourmet snacks and champagne at Federici before the show at the Princess Theatre next door.

The photographic genius of Steve McCurry was exhibited in scenic Williamstown, where his ICONS revelations were a veritable mind-blow. “Just the simple fact of travelling and exploring in depth different cultures brings me joy and boundless energy,” he says. From the legendary portrait of the Afghan Girl, Sharbat Gula, to capturing people and cultures around this diverse planet, if this exhibition comes to your city, don’t miss it.

 

Pictured above, the mesmerising work of Steve McCurry, who has the ability to capture the soul of his subjects through the lens.

Dining Out

The Sofitel’s level 35 is a marvel! The 180 degree view of the city, the Yarra River, and bay, not to mention the plethora of green spaces and ground-breaking contemporary architecture alongside the historical relics of this liveable city, is breathtaking.

Suffering from acrophobia, which is commonly referred to as vertigo, which is just one symptom of acrophobia, I did feel as if I was spinning when I looked down, so, I looked out instead, and it was incredible. Oddly, I have no fear of flying and looking out of an airplane but I’m not wasting time trying to establish why…

The gourmet cuisine complements the gracious service and contemporary French ambience.

Our menu choices included entrees to share, comprising steamed beetroot, watermelon radish, apricot puree, blueberry gel, coconut yoghurt, with puffed rice; the Port Macquarie kingfish ceviche, rock melon and tomato gazpacho, chilli, finger lime, coriander, and lemon with fried garlic were a triumph.

Pictured above, French flair at the Sofitel’s Level 35 Restaurant on Collins Street, with vistas of Melbourne and cuisine to drool over. That skylight in the lobby of the hotel…

Our mains comprised, Humpty Doo Barramundi with nduja chorizo sauce, braised baby octopus, wilted spinach, and a rice cracker; Gippsland eye fillet, truffle fries, mixed salad, chimichurri; and potato gnocchi, mixed mushroom ragout, crispy enoki, caramelised onion, lemon zest, with shaved parmesan. We ordered French fries to share as a side. A superb day in the city with friends who have become chosen family.

The Rocks in Mornington never disappoints, and it is a less than 30-minute drive from home. The value for money and delectable food, vista of the pier and marina, are further enhanced by the always convivial atmosphere and friendly service.

My most recent dinner with my local bestie did not disappoint. The succulent slow-roasted lamb, deliciously glazed carrots, and fries with aioli on the side proved the perfect choice to share on a chilly winter’s evening. Complemented by Laurent Perrier champagne, all was well with the world.

Pictured above, slow-roasted lamb, glazed carrots, perfect fries and the always calming view at The Rocks in Mornington.

Sofa spud

Netflix 2024 Geek Girl, a limited series, is charming. The story is based on the book by Molly Smale, which demonstrates the careless treatment by their classmates experienced by many teens through the ages. The outcome is refreshing. Emily Carey is delightful as Harriet Manners, and Liam Woodrum is her modern-day prince on a white steed, Nick Park. The bullies do get their comeuppance. Loved that. There is an indication that Harriet could be on the autism spectrum, a seemingly common phenomenon these day too, and it is handled with sensitivity by the director.

The Greatest Showman 2017, starring Hugh Jackman, also on Netflix, was electrifying and I would gladly watch this larger-than-life musical movie again. Michelle Williams, always great cinematic value, is outstanding. When acting and musical talents gel, it makes for the best sofa binge. Oh, and don’t forget Zac Efron and Zendaya, who match these luminaries on the pitch. Directed by Michael Gracey, this movie is evergreen. I do enjoy spectacular productions by Baz Luhrmann but I’m delighted he did not get his zealous hands on this gem.

Still on Netflix, Maria by Callas, a 2017 documentary, is one of the best and most honest doccies I’ve seen in years. She was beautiful, a rare talent, and loved deeply with all her heart. She started singing in her early teens and sadly passed away aged only 53 in Paris from a heart attack in 1977. Her captivating voice and mesmerising stage presence will never die. I believe her ashes were stolen, then recovered, and scattered over the Aegean Sea, as was her wish, by 1979. The true cause of the loss of her magnificent voice remains unclear. Could it have been from a broken heart as Ari Onassis had been the love of her life?

Channel Seven, free to watch: Person of Interest starring Jim Caviezel, is a series that ran from 2011 to 2016. I love this modern-day take on a man of integrity serving justice in the shadows.

Another free to air movie I enjoyed on Seven was Spinning Man, starring Guy Pearce, Pierce Brosnan, and Minnie Driver. Released in 2018, this one was full of surprises. A disappointed wife, a college professor, pretty young things, and a gruff police detective who won’t quit. A thriller.

Prime: The Burial, starring Jamie Foxx and Tommy Lee Jones, is a 2023 movie based on true events, reflecting the dilemmas and prejudices of the Mississippi justice system.

I loved watching Mermaids again after so many years. A young Winona Rider, her character’s free-spirited mother portrayed by Cher, and Bob Hoskins as the quirky love interest, made for a delightful romp produced in 1990.

Audrey Hepburn Remembered, still on Prime. This 1993 documentary, narrated by the like of Roger Moore and Gregory Peck, confirms the gamine, gracious talent with the kindest heart that was Audrey.

If you enjoy the classics, the 1947 film The Bishop’s Wife, starring Loretta Young, Cary Grant, and David Niven, is pure delight in black and white.

Binge: My Old Lady is a 2014 movie filmed in Paris, starring Kirsten Scott-Thomas, Kevin Cline, and Maggie Smith. I just love happy endings – and Paris!

I watched Striptease, starring Demi Moore and Burt Reynolds again after many years after its first release in the mid-1990s. Why? No, not to take up pole dancing but to laugh out loud at the now late Burt Reynolds’ brilliant performance as the ridiculous Congressman Dilbeck. Okay, Demi as a single mother and cash-strapped former FBI employee dancing in a sleazy joint to pay the bills, was superb in her role too. A fine thriller with genuine laughs.

Up your style with simple classics

Layering for winter is not as complicated as we tend to make it. Often, when in doubt, I go for the less is more look. Uncluttered, simple style when paired with classic designs are timeless and always classy.

The basics to build a look on matter as we want them to stand alone when the outer layer is removed for warmer indoor temperatures.

When we know we will spend time in heated restaurants or locations, wearing a lighter knit top, or silk shirt, will serve us best when paired with a skirt or pants. Add a good coat, blazer, or poncho, and a scarf for the outer layer without creating a bulky look.

When wearing a thicker knit or knitted dress, a wrap, bigger coat, or poncho, will do the trick when entering the chill. Wearing a tight-fitting jacket or coat over a bulky outfit does nothing for our silhouette.

Leather jackets in classic styles, ranging from the bigger aviator design (which is ideal over a thicker knit), to the snug cropped or longer fitted jackets, complement those figure-hugging basics.

Mixing colours, from simple monochrome elegance, to charismatic brighter shades to warm up the mood on chilly days, is fun. It’s all about our mood and the occasion.

Pictured above, from top, left to right: Choose a big coat as outer layer when wearing bulky basics – a gilet works well too; fitted coats pair well with thinner first layers to avoid a bulky look; warm blazers never date, whilst fitted jackets work best over thinner first layers; a classic suit is evergreen and when fully lined, it is better to wear a thinner top underneath – just add a wrap scarf for the outdoors; ponchos and wraps are great over thicker knits.

Some good news for my Mornington Peninsula readers, Fella Hamilton, which I’ve featured before and a favoured Australian fashion brand, now has a branch in Mornington too!

For more style ideas, see my latest fashion article for @Startsat60 at https://startsat60.com/media/lifestyle/style/add-a-dress-for-winter-chic-staying-stylish-this-season

Cheers to the good life, darlings. We owe it to us to embrace the good, the bad and the ugly… it’s our choice what defines us. I say double cheers to that – now where did I leave my mojito…

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We’re every woman

By Tilly Smith Dix

I am so over women of a certain age being cast as the hard, tough, angry, bitter silver older sisters. First, we were invisible, then finally, like people of colour, we started being recognised for not giving up and adding value. Now, too many fashion designers, movie directors and women’s magazines are casting us as furious, ball-breaking witches. Enough!

Are we not allowed to be feminine, alluring, strong, feisty, sexy, smart, and gentle? We have many layers and should not be shoved into one category only. Most of the women from my era with whom I interact gladly on social media, personally, and on business platforms, are multi-faceted and interesting! We’ve seen stuff. We’ve lived life and we are still here, pursuing new adventures.

We have stories to tell and sound advice to share. We’ve struggled, which made us stronger and wiser. This does not mean we are turning into men. Frankly, none of my sisters from other misters wish to be male, yet, when I look at some of the beautiful women over fifty gracing our catwalks and magazine covers, the stylists seem united: make them look hard and androgynous. Really?

For starters, we do not need validation about all the roles we’ve had to embrace in our lives, from lovers, to partners, to wives, to mothers, to executives, to career women, to running countries. Why should this deprive us of our femininity? Why paint this picture of warmongering women hunting for battles to fight (unless you are an obnoxious fool, hie, as we now know how to deal with those by now)!

Naturally, we don’t stand for much nonsense anymore – we know what we want, we know what’s right, and we will stand up for our rights, not only as women but as citizens of this planet. We are strong, that does not mean we are hard. Read the room, know the difference…

Having fought, won, and lost many battles, we are still women. Even in our toughest moments, most of us still nurture that young woman with stars in her eyes and romance in her heart. The woman who will pacify a stranger’s crying child, take care of a sick puppy, plant a tree in the garden where she buried the ashes of a beloved cat or even a wild bird that had passed over the rainbow bridge in her garden.

At the same token, she’d also take on those who bully her or anyone she loves. When we’ve been on this earth for longer than the time we have left, we have the savvy to deal with injustice without wasting time on losing our cool often.

So, my message to those looking at us with dollar signs in their eyes and categorising us in these macabre, hardened gladiator-type roles of life, holding a bottle of whiskey in one hand and a smoking gun in the other, get real.

A male friend recently asked me why so many women were trying to look like men. I asked him for an example so I could contemplate the facts before giving him an answer, and he mentioned how fashion magazines and movies were featuring mature women in this light! I asked him if he knew any real women over a certain age that looked that way, and he sheepishly responded, “no.”

I’m not judging women who have given up on femininity and prefer sneakers to heels even for a smart event. This, however, does not automatically put them into a male wannabe category, surely?

We now live life on our terms as we’ve earned the right to do so having walked through fire and experienced the, often, unfair school of osmosis. The sisters I gravitate towards are kind, beautiful inside and out, and they take care of their minds as well as their appearance.

We are every woman. Every nuance of womanhood is embedded in our hearts, our souls, our spirits, and plenty of stories can be told about the scars we carry in our hearts and on our bodies. However, we prefer to share stories of joy, whilst savouring life for all it’s worth.

My message to those women who still feel invisible, think about what would make you happy and fulfilled, strategize your plan to feel and look lovely and desirable! Why not start by booking a spa pamper day to reawaken your feminine spirit. Just look at Dame Joan Collins at 90! Feminine, elegant, sexy, feisty, cheeky, funny, smart as a whip, and still embracing every nuance of life. Cheers to that.

We are not over. As the now late, always colourful Iris Apfel said, “you only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” She lived life on her terms for 102 years and passed on March 1 this year in Palm Beach, Florida. Amen, sista. I bet the angels are loving the colours she has brought to their celestial cloud.

I hope she had something to say to haute couture designer Claude Montana, who also passed earlier this year. His almost monastic adherence to the principles of apparel design belied his wild, abusive, enfant terrible lifestyle. I hear lively conversations and Iris’ laughter…

Health and beauty

The Collagen Company recently asked me to review and post their collagen peptide shakes, promising thicker, healthier hair, glowing, hydrated skin, stronger nails, and healthy joints, on social media.

I’ve always believed in natural supplements and often joke about rattling like a pebble-filled can after breakfast if anyone should pick me up and shake me even slightly! So, I was happy to oblige.

I tested the refreshing Purple Grape shake they sent me for a week to see if my skin would respond, knowing nails and hair would take longer, as my joints still seem lubricated, thank ye gods, and I wish to maintain their moving smoothly, of course.

     

Pictured above: one glass of water, two scoops, stir, delicious! The Australian produced collagen shake contains: hyaluronic acid, Vitamin C, and biotin (vitamin B7). Beauty starts from the inside to get the glow.

Well, I did see a noticeable difference and an additional glow to my seemingly smoother complexion within a few days. I am committed to continue this collagen journey. I’ll keep you posted on the hair and nails, as they certainly need some help… the joys of ageing, sigh…

Use my discount code TILLY10 if you live in Australia, as for now, www.thecollagen.co does not deliver abroad – follow them on IG @thecollagen.co and get the glow!

Out and about

Frankston Arts Centre, The Michael Jackson History Show, on a countrywide tour to pay tribute to the late King of Pop, blew me away! The reviews were glowing, so my Aussie bestie and I set off for a night of MJ fun.

Pictured above: The Michael Jackson History Show – Garth Field as MJ is electrifying.

The world-class performance by the band, dancers, and the star, Garth Field, was electrifying! Showtime Australia has outdone itself, again… and what made this show even more memorable? Most members of the riveting cast originate from South Africa, mostly the Cape, which made me deeply patriotic of my origins. This show should be a world tour, I’d not change a thing! Go to their IG page @mjhistoryshow – the audience, packed to the rafters, danced like no one was watching!

Seaford Beach Café continues to be a favourite destination for breakfast and my recent simple scrambled eggs on sourdough, with avocado and halloumi sides, was scrumptious. Then, there is also that view of the beach and the pier… highly recommended, whilst the vibe and service will not disappoint either.

Wishing for an alcoholic beverage but the café is not licensed? Take a walk towards the station after lunch or breakfast and relax at the Spanish Bar, where the view of Kananook Creek is always a treat, especially if you enjoy ducks in their natural habitat. I’ve reviewed the menu at the bar before, and it’s another firm favourite.

Pictured above: Breakfast at the Beach Café and its view of Seaford Beach, and Kananook Creek

I adore being a tourist in my own city, and cruising to Williamstown had been on my living a good life list (notice I do not say bucket list after a sweet friend told me we were not ready to kick the bucket), for many years and I finally got to experience it with my dearest Aussie friend Rika. Suffice to say, this enchanting adventure will not be ticked off the list as I intend returning there again, and again!

Yes, it’s that good and compares most favourably with day cruises I’ve embarked on when travelling in Europe and the USA years ago. Just seeing the joy on the international tourists on the ferry’s faces and their enthusiasm in snapping pictures with their phones and cameras, spoke volumes.

We booked online for Melbourne Ferry Cruises and embarked at Southbank Promenade near the arts precinct, sailing down the Yarra River on a perfect autumn day into the tranquil bay, past the docks and Station Pier Cruise Ship Terminal. It felt like a holiday!

Seeing the city from the river and the bayside is captivating and I highly recommend locals and visitors to experience this at least once. My plan? Going on a dinner cruise to Williamstown – gosh, I may even move there!

The Yarra River might be a brown river because of natural clay soils, which is why it is referred to as the upside-down river, but it is no less enchanting. The city put on her brightest hues and watching swans with their cygnets gracefully gliding on the outward tide made me want to interrupt the highly informative commentary about the history of our city and its bridges, with strains of The Swan by Camille Saint-Saens… pure magic.

In under and hour, we disembarked in charming Williamstown, which was Melbourne’s first port settlement. Rich in history, laden with maritime museums and colonial landmarks, yachts dock alongside tall ships at Gem Pier. The convict-built Nelson Place now houses craft shops and restaurants. The tranquil parks, wetlands, and sandy beaches make for a sophisticated holiday destination, not to mention this being a sanctuary of choice for black swans.

The historical architecture and cosmopolitan eateries, which mostly spill out onto the sidewalks, make for a day-trip to rhapsodise over for years to come, not to mention the photographic landmarks and overall grace of the town and its friendly people.

Pictured above, the ferry from Melbourne’s South Bank to Williamstown is a visual treat, and the mezze platter at Santorini was mouthwatering.

We settled for a delicious mezze lunch and delightful Redbank Emily Brut Cuvee bubbles at Santorini, which is owner managed. The artful presentation was only surpassed by the delicious freshness of each menu item, ranging from octopus, to saganaki, halloumi, dips, calamari, chorizo, and the best zucchini fritters I’ve ever tasted.

For the return journey, we boarded the train, which took us back to Seaford on the Mornington Peninsula in just over an hour. Can’t wait to return!

Travel

Winter in South Africa is an ideal time to go on safari. Need to escape on a luxe, authentic safari, where over twenty-seven major species of game roam free, with all of them frequenting a large waterhole, which is surrounded by the lodge accommodation and hospitality areas? An animal kingdom where humans are elevated within the lodge areas for safety but with sublime vistas of the never-ending parade of game…

This is also the place where migrating and native birdlife establish its territory around the water, making for a year-round birders’ paradise of over 250 bird species recorded so far!

This is Tau Game Lodge, a five-star safari gem situated on the far northern region of South Africa, in the malaria-free Madikwe Game Reserve, bordering the wilds of Botswana. Madikwe is the fourth largest game reserve in the country.

Pictured above: Tau, the place of the lion – and the entire big five.

All safaris are conducted by highly skilled game rangers, who respect every aspect of the flora and fauna of this natural habitat.

The lodge has a ranger who is a professional photographer to teach wildlife photography to guests using cameras. He also photographs guests to further enhance and personalise their magical safari memories by arrangement, subject to availability.

A guest recently reported seeing two lions in their late-teens, lazy in the morning sun, before they suddenly started sniffing the air and looking alert. “As our safari vehicle moved further down the track, we saw some wildebeest with their calves and realised those two maned boys had sniffed breakfast,” he chuckled. This is just one of the convivial stories that abound after game drives, when delicious toddies and snacks are served in the bush under the watchful eye of safety-conscious rangers.

Tau is pure, understated 5-star luxury and family-friendly, whilst many memorable weddings have been hosted here over the years too.

The Tau Spa Oasis, a world-class Conference & Events Centre, and eco-friendly mindfulness make for an authentic, luxe safari in this malaria-free region. Just over an easy four-hour drive from Pretoria and Johannesburg – www.taugamelodge.co.za – the  Tau live webcam will keep you mesmerised at http://taugamelodge.co.za/main-lodge/live-webcam/

Summer in the Italian Alps with an out-of-Africa safari lodge vibe could be the answer for anyone hankering for something completely different in the Northern Italian town of Bolzano.

The impeccable fusion of Africa meets a Tyrolean chalet in the magnificent mountains of the Italian Alps, is pure rustic chic, embraced further through the authentic cuisine by chef Hannes Pignater, whereby almost all the ingredients are harvested or reared within mere metres of Adler Lodge Ritten.

The lodge farm’s harvested wheat and grain are kneaded into fresh pasta and pastry dishes for the authentic kitchen. There’s also a collection of beehives in the forest, which is collected by the lodge’s own on-site beekeeper. In turn, this allows you to go on a rare tasting experience of honey, flavoured with local raspberries, truffles, and mead. 

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Pictured above: Adler Lodge Ritten (supplied).
 
Anything that cannot be cultivated in this zero-mile manner is sourced from farms within the region, which includes organic eggs, fresh homemade juices, Speck bacon, as well as Wagyu and Chianina beef from specially reared grazing herds.
 
Fill up each morning with a breakfast feast, and head for the panoramic restaurant under the stars for dinner. Each recipe beautifully balances the mountain earthiness of the lodge’s environment with the lightness of the Mediterranean.

The indoor-outdoor saltwater infinity pool with a panoramic vista of the majestic Dolomite Mountains, luxurious spa cabins, and saunas in the pine-scented forest, make for a romantic slice of paradise.

With easy rail connections from Milan and Munich, and Innsbruck and Verona airports a mere two-hour drive away, this is an ideal gourmet spa escape – www.adler-resorts.com

Bookworm

Swipe Left on Scammers 

As a victim of cyber identity theft a few years ago, this one gets my vote! My images were stolen from my Instagram fashion page and used to create a false identity in the US, scamming vulnerable older men of thousands of dollars on mature dating sites during the time of Covid lockdowns. I had never subscribed to these sites but some victims and their children found me via my blog by utilised facial tracking on Google, thereby alerting me about my face being worth thousands, but not in a good way!

Intrepid author Caroline Hurry reports the following: In the shadowy realm of cybercrime, deception wears the mask of love, which is the best way to target human vulnerabilities.

These digital con artists are no amateurs ‒ they study their prey, honing in on their habits with alarming accuracy. Meet Amanda Singleton, who thought she’d soon be marrying a successful surgeon until she discovered, $10,000 later, that she’d been romancing a clone all along! 

Stella Firewall, author of Tales from the Cyber Crypt, says: “These heartbreak heists accounted for $956 million in losses in the United States alone last year. 

Pictured above: smarten up about cyber scams.

“Save yourself from potential heartache and financial loss. Before you swipe right on a possible love interest, or if you’ve never met your digital paramour in person, reverse-search their image using Tin Eye. Scammers impersonate real people who do not know their image was stolen for nefarious purposes. If it appears nowhere else, it might be AI. The same goes for conducting business transactions online.”

In a world where a stolen phone can spell financial disaster and even the most innocuous click can have disastrous consequences, it pays to be informed. For just Australian $1.50, learn how to fortify your defences and spot scammers before they can strike – https://mybook.to/CCRA

Sofa spud

Netflix

Einstein and the Bomb, 2024: worth watching, how Albert Einstein flees Germany in 1933 during Nazi persecution – they even took his violin. Based on facts from the archives, Aidan McArdle is a convincing Einstein.

Oppenheimer, 2024, deserved all its nominations and awards, and more! Cillian Murphy is perfectly cast, superbly supported by Emily Blunt, Robert Downey Jnr, and Matt Damon. Tom Conti is a convincing Einstein too. Labelled the Manhattan Project, developing the atomic bomb at Los Alamos, which resulted in the bomb dropped on Hiroshima in 1945 after the Japanese bombing of Pearl Harbour in 1941.

Scoop is a 2024 release based on the now disgraced Prince Andrew’s embarrassing interview with Emily Maitlis of Newsnight in the 2019 expose on Jeffrey Epstein’s connections. Rufus Sewell delivers a mesmerising performance in the lead, and Gillian Anderson, I thought, creates an authentic Ms Maitlis. Billie Piper, Keeley Hawes, and Romola Garai up the ante in the supporting cast.

Monk – series: I’m enjoying bingeing this series from the start. Tony Shalhoub is brilliant as the OCD, PTS and possibly Asperger’s syndrome character. Always a sucker for San Francisco locations after falling in love with the city years ago, it’s visually delightful too. Oh, and the bad guys always get caught! Don’t you love that?

Inferno, 2016, the finale of Dan Brown’s trilogy, starring Tom Hanks and Felicity Jones, directed by Ron Howard, remains an action-packed binge.

Here Today, a 2021 movie starring Billy Crystal and Tiffany Haddish, is a heartfelt story about values, friendship, ageing, and dementia.

The English Patient is still a superb movie based on the 1992 book by Michael Ondaatje, starring Ralph Fiennes, Juliette Binoche, Kristin Scott Thomas, Willem Dafoe, and Colin Firth. Breathtaking locations of Tunisia and Tuscany. I cried again.

Prime Video

Becoming Frida Kahlo is a worthwhile documentary released in 2023 about Frida’s paintings, writing, and often turbulent story about her legacy.

Equalizer 3, 2023, starring Denzel Washington, this time in Sicily, addressing the Camorra syndicate. Dakota Fanning, now all grown up, and the rest of the supporting cast deliver superbly.

Camille, 1984, based on the book about a Parisian courtesan by Alexandre Dumas, starring Greta Scacchi, Colin Firth and Ben Kingsley, is an oldie worth returning to.

Nancy Wake: Gestapo’s Most Wanted, a 2014 release. She was a New Zealand-born Australian spy in Paris during WWII. Based on real events, this was a captivating binge on the two-part series. The Nazis referred to her as White Mouse. What a woman, she saved hundreds of lives, leading some 7,000 Maquis troops in guerrilla warfare, claiming more than 1,400 German casualties. She lived to the age of 98 in London, and requested her ashes be scattered in central France. Her French husband Henri Fiocca was killed by the Gestapo after Nancy was ordered to flee France in 1943 when the network was betrayed.

The Lady Vanishes, 2013, based on Agatha Christie’s book, is worth a watch on Brit Box – I’ll be indulging in Agatha Christie movies for some time…

Layered style

It’s been said, the more clothes we have, the less we know what to wear. Mia culpa, chuckles…however, creating versatile outfits from good old basics, such as a black blazer, wide-leg white or ivory pants, denim, black pants, silk shirts, and ponchos, will result in us always having something to wear at short notice.

Then, there is a trend that has returned, and I’m delighted as I’ve seen summer and winter vests do the rounds since the late 70s. Not only are they ideal for layering, but also serve as a useful focus item when teamed with pants or a skirt – or even over a midi dress. I’m a big fan of the button-up vest on its own with pants or a skirt in summer, as it turns the most casual outfit into a class act. Worn over a sheer shirt, it elevates the look to next level chic.

Ah, and then there is the soft, warm, woollen vest, which creates a mood of luxe class, and when worn over a soft silky shirt, it makes a statement for any occasion. The knitted vest is also uber practical as it works so well when the weather turns chilly. Worn under a blazer or coat, it certainly keeps the torso snug and when we remove the top layer when indoors, it is comfortable as our arms are not overheating with that second layer.

I see plenty stylists advising their followers to identify their personality and find their individual style. I agree, to a degree, however, as we encompass so many layers and nuances of being a woman, being every woman, and pieces of her, I say wear whatever you’re in the mood for. Did I hear someone saying, “well hello Sybil?” Just ignore the asinine remark, we rise above it and embrace all our moods in style.

Feeling seductive but don’t want to be an obvious siren? Why not show your cougar side by adding gorgeous heels to a big shirt and skinny jeans ensemble, with a tiny peep of a lace camisole; wish to be the boss lady in the boardroom, even if it’s just a lunch, wear a silk shirt and blazer; in the mood for looking like old money in the country, wear a flat cap and a vest with jeans; feeling feminine but don’t want that Barbara Cartland vibe, wear a frilled shirt with softly tailored pants or a straight skirt.

Pictured above, styling for autumn made easy, with everlasting basics, including: a classic blazer, a cropped jacket, vests, ponchos, versatile shirts, soft knits, scarves and ponchos. No fluffy cat was injured in this shoot, hie…

Check your wardrobe before acquiring new seasonal items. Chances are, we often already have similar pieces in our closet as most of us tend to buy the same pieces and colours as we’ve already found our style basics, often without realising it. By unpacking the new season’s old wardrobe and mixing and matching the styles we’d like to embody for now, it becomes easier to decide which additional items we require to give our basic capsule style a brand-new feel and personality.

Cheers to living the good life and feeling fabulous – we owe it to ourselves to choose happy …

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Love is all around us

By Tilly Smith Dix

We all know about curiosity killing the cat but honestly, I’m beginning to think too much honesty could be to blame for murdering relationships.

Finding the balance between honesty, kindness and respect could be tricky, and the older one gets, the more one looks behind the veil, trying to understand the reason for people’s behaviour, so we could proceed wisely.

Someone recently told me of a friend criticising them every time they met up for lunch. The so-called friend claims to ‘just being honest’ when she delivers the unsolicited jabs to our friend. Usually, my friend tells me, she has shrugged it off and never retaliated with what she really thought of her ‘honest’ friend’s style, or manners.

However, we all have bad days from time to time, when we put our best foot forward, apply our prettiest lipstick (if we are women as this is not customary for chaps, ha), wear our special outfit to elevate the mood, and fix our best smile to face the world. One of the ‘honest’ remarks about my friend’s appearance did hit a soft spot at some point and she could feel her confidence slipping after yet another careless remark.

This is just one of the examples of folks claiming to be honest. Interestingly, the moment anyone dishes out the same honesty to them, it might not be what they wish to hear, which could lead to a war of thorny roses!

One of the many wonderful words I’ve acquired reaching this wiser age, is: NO! (Uttered with a bumper-sized exclamation mark.) When someone continuously says hurtful things or betrays our trust, we need to know when to say, “no, stop!” By putting our cards on the table before our hurt escalates into angry resentment, we are being kind to ourselves and the friendship. Should that friend choose to become belligerent about our asking them to curb their thoughtlessness, we need to take a break from them, or walk away. Time out will tell as a repressive friendship is simply taboo. Life really is too short for this s.h.i.t.

On this Valentine’s Day, and February being the month in which love is celebrated in most corners of our planet, I believe it essential to care enough about ourselves to know our worth in any situation, be it in a romantic relationship, friendship, family matters, or in the workplace. By setting boundaries, we show respect and love for ourselves.

What, no Valentine? Mourning a loved one, recovering from a breakup, or just feeling lonely? I see the 14th as a day to not only celebrate a partner and our love for them but also our love for our besties.

There are many stories about the history of Valentine’s Day. Years ago, when I was a special features editor, I spent many hours in the library researching the history of this celebratory day of love. Yes, back then there was no internet, just like there was no Wi-Fi when the 8th century Gelasian Sacramentary recorded the honouring of the Feast of Saint Valentine on February 14. That day became associated with romantic love by the 14th century, when notions of courtly love flourished, apparently by association with the lovebirds of early spring!

I enjoyed spending time in that old Victorian library back in the early 1990s (can’t remember what I did in the14th century, although an ex may have some thoughts involving black pointy hats, cats and broomsticks, ha)!

During my research, some of the stories depicted how young men would leave tokens of their love at the doors of young women they fancied, with some also serenading the objects of their affection. Other stories presented Valentine’s as the day to celebrate friendships between young women, when they’d send a special card to their besties to thank them for their loyalty, friendship, and love.

So, what do I suggest we do even when we have a partner? Send a message to our dearest sisters from other misters, assuring them of our appreciation and love, and if we are lucky enough to have a true friend of the opposite sex, to show them the same love too.

As for being alone on Valentine’s? Wear something pretty, wear your most alluring perfume, stock up on snacks and a preferred tipple, and settle for a celebratory evening watching a good show on the box. Okay, I know some of my male readers are not partial to wearing perfume, so, I suggest you shave and shampoo, wear something nice, tap into your most romantic self and show the women in your life some love, which should include best girlfriends, mothers, and sisters. I think sweet gestures and thoughtful tokens far outweigh lavish gifts… but I know of no woman who would turn down a ruby and diamond ring…

Oh, and don’t forget to hug yourself for being fabulous! It’s so much better being alone in a happy space than sharing it with a hostile partner. Cheers to peace and love, it really is all around us, we must simply see it. Oh, and don’t forget to hug the cat or dog either. Their love is unconditional. Cliche? Who cares, watch Love Actually, When Harry Met Sally, or Valentine’s Day (avoid Saint Valentine’s Day Massacre though, it’s a real downer, well, so was Capone, who was believed to have ordered that bloodbath) …

Glorious food

Waves on the Beach Frankston: the seafood linguini, laden with succulent white fish, salmon, prawns, scallops, and mussels, washed down with Varichon et Clerc NV Blanc de Blanc Cufee from Savoie, France, again, did not disappoint. Add one of my favourite beach views of a magnificent sunset, and all is well with the world.

Pictured above: seafood linguini at Waves on the Beach, with a view of Frankston Beach before sunset.

Vinnies in Mt Eliza: I’ve tried several dishes on the authentic Italian menu and the linguini carbonara did not disappoint. Rich and laden with bacon, the delicious mix of pecorino, black pepper, and plenty cured pork, accompanied by my choice of sundowner, an Aperol spritz, ticked all the comfort-food boxes.

Capt. Jack’s at Somerville Cove: the generous serving of grilled tiger prawn linguini was served with capers on a sweet potato and herb puree. A creative, flavoursome dish. I’ll be back – again!

Pictured above: from top left clockwise, prawn linguini and the interior of Captn. Jack’s in Somerville Cove; linguini carbonara at Vinnies in Mt Eliza; braised lamb shank and mash at the Royal Hotel Mornington.

Royal Hotel Mornington: the braised lamb shank, prepared with tomato sugo, peas, mash, and gremolata, was scrumptious and ideal on a cool summer evening. Naturally, one could not resist a quick drive to the nearby Mornington Pier for a perfect, hues of blue sunset.

Pictured above: the rustic old Mornington Pier, left, and an early morning walk on Frankston Beach.

Sofa binges

Netflix: Hotel Mumbai, released in 2018, based on true events of the terror attack and the heroic staff at the Hotel Taj on 26 November 2008. Starring Dev Patel, Nazanin Boniadi, and (the now disgraced) Armie Hammer. Gripping.

Still on Netflix, the documentary The Greatest Night in Pop, narrated by Lionel Richie, is about that epic one night only about the rehearsal and recording of iconic pop stars singing We are the World in 1985. The song was written by Lionel Richie and the now late Michael Jackson, produced by Quincy Jones as part of the USA for Africa initiative to save starving children. A glorious trip down memory lane for me, and with so many musical egos in one room, Lionel Richie’s note at the entrance was priceless: Check your ego at the door!

Also on Netflix, Griselda, a limited 2024 series about the true story of Griselda Blanco, Colombian drug boss, who was the only ‘man’ apparently feared by Pablo Escobar! Sofia Vergara is unrecognisable and frighteningly believable in the title role. Drug dealing is a dangerous business!

Apple TV: Masters of the Air is a 2023 limited series and a Spielberg/Hanks production, starring Austin Butler. Great WWII viewing for anyone who loves making a hole in the sky.

Seven, free to air: The 2024 Grammy Awards hosted for the fourth consecutive year by the hilarious, classy, and proudly South African Trevor Noah. Highlights for me? Tracey Chapman accompanied by Luke Combs, and Grammy winner Miley Cyrus performing. I loved Miley’s take on this, her first Grammy, in which she described her chasing awards like the little boy trying to catch butterflies with his net. When he stops and surrenders, a butterfly thanks him by sitting on his nose.

Prime/BritBox: Poirot, the award-winning Agatha Christie series starring David Suchet and Hugh Fraser. Elegant, eloquent, witty, and clever. Got to love Monsieur Poirot’s perfectly waxed moustache, obsessive need for facial symmetry, and constantly reminding everyone around him to engage their “leetle grey cells!” The humour remains cuttingly wry, with phrases such as, “did not know you have gone into politics,” when someone wears a clown suit, had me in stitches. Hastings, who is so easily duped by pretty women, remains an endearing character too. Highly addictive watching and the charming locations in the UK add to the romance and mystery, n’est ce pas, mon amie?

Still on Prime, The Trial of American Traitor Axis Sally, alias Ms Mildred Gillars, who collaborated with the Nazis on her radio broadcasts from Germany for American women back home. Starring Al Pacino and Meadow Williams, Joseph Goebbels’ control of Axis was a frightening reminder of the sadistic, evil monster he was.

Still on Prime, a limited series produced in 2017, The Last Tycoon, F. Scott Fitzgerald’s book adaptation, is riveting. Starring Kelsey Grammer, Matt Bomer, Rosemarie De Witt, Lily Collins, and Dominique McElliott, I was transported to those halcyon days of Hollywood. Glamour, mystery, greed, egos, and many rotten apples…

Still on Prime, another limited series released in 2023, Stonehouse is based on the true story of disgraced British MP John Stonehouse, who faked his own death. He ended up being caught by clever police in Melbourne, Australia! Starring Matthew McFadyen, I was mesmerised by the story and his performance.

Easter safari

Autumn in the bush is a magical time, when the hues and landscape change to warmer colours before winter sets in. Hot toddies and much conviviality abound on luxe, unpretentious safaris at Tau Game Lodge.

This is also the time when the visibility of game enthrals visitors even more, as the animals are less inclined to seek shade after the summer heat has subsided in the Madikwe Game Reserve, which is situated in the North-West corner of South Africa, bordering the wilds of Botswana.

For 29 years Tau has hosted visitors from around the world. Guest reports have mostly been along the lines of their having visited many safari lodges, some even more swish, but the welcoming team and comforting hospitality, paired with sublime game viewing and a waterhole visible from every room and hospitality deck, even from the two swimming pools, will beckon them to return to this eco-conscious lodge time and again.

Listening to the sounds of game trumpeting, roaring, tweeting, and barking their nocturnal supremacy, is pure safari bliss. This is Tau, the place of the lion.

The Tau rangers are celebrated for their respect for nature and passion for the local flora and fauna. The lodge now has a ranger who is also a professional photographer to teach wildlife photography to guests using cameras and not only their phones – on request. He would take photographs of guests to further enhance and personalise their magical safari memories by arrangement.

Pictured above, a safari at Tau never disappoints.

Tau is pure, understated 5-star luxury and family-friendly, offering a Cubz Club, baby-sitting services, and special safaris and education for youngsters, affording the adults some quality safari, leisure, and spa time. Memorable weddings have been hosted here over the years too.

The Tau Easter 2024 packages start from R 30.500. – per couple, including:

  • Accommodation for 2 nights in a Luxury Standard Chalet
  • 3 meals per day
  • 2 game drives per day
  • Drinks and snacks on safari drives
  • Tau Spa Oasis African Foot Ritual (30 minutes) per adult: Allow your feet to be pampered by our therapists in a soothing footbath to drain away fatigue. Next your feet are cleansed and massaged with an aroma-therapeutic based scrub, followed by a true African warming foot massage.
  • Rates exclude:

Park Entrance fees, Rhino Conservation Levy, Tourism Levy, Bar, Mini Bar, Laundry and all extras.

  • Easter egg hunt for kids applicable for families in Deluxe and Family Suites – please contact the lodge for these family rates.

To book this special package, please quote: TAU EASTER 2024

See more at www.taugamelodge.co.za – and get hooked on the live webcam at http://taugamelodge.co.za/main-lodge/live-webcam/

Good reads

Get ready to reign supreme with the Water Queen’s dating advice. To celebrate Valentine’s Day and Leap Year 2024, author Caroline Hurry has made the eBook available for just 99c! Elevate your dating game at any age and enjoy a few hearty laughs along the way! Grab it here: https://mybook.to/53kwsPl

Pictured above, dating tips and giggles, just another of Caroline Hurry’s many great reads.

Cool linen style, just add romance, pearls and lace

How many ways could I wax lyrical about wearing breathable, sustainable linen during the warmer months? A friend recently commented she adored linen too, but it did crease so easily. My response? It remains effortless, nonchalant style.

Picture the handsome, well-dressed men and women, wearing linen in those romantically mysterious Agatha Christie movies… they look cool in an English summer as well as in the heat of those exotic destinations so often featured. Remember Murder Under the Sun, filmed on location in Majorca, Spain… or Death on the Nile, depicting the desert heat of Morocco and Egypt?

My point is linen is a cool, sustainable fabric to wear and by picking a few basic items, such as pants, skirts, dresses, and tops, mixing and matching will take looking and feeling cool to a whole new level.

Of course, how could one ignore the month of romance and dressing for Valentine’s Day? Whilst red is always the colour of passion, it is not a colour that suits or appeals to everyone. So, if we wish to play it safe, I’d say wear black or white, and add a pop of red – shoes, a belt, a red rose, and most importantly, delicious red lipstick! Want to enhance the look further, add a touch of lace, preferably black, and bold pearl accessories.

It’s about feeling fabulous, so, have fun with that existing wardrobe and give some old items a new lease on life. Creating a mood with an outfit does wonders for the build-up to any celebratory event. This is also classic me-time, which is something all women need. We should never forget to celebrate our femininity by looking good and most of all, feeling sensational at any age!

Pictured above, styling with linen, denim, pearls and lace… versatile wardrobe choices. Light knitted sets and toppers are always a good idea when the temperature drops in summer and they roll up easily for suitcase travelling too. Mix and match linen tops and pants, and never underestimate the power of a good scarf or jacket to elevate a look. Lace tights will add intrigue to any little black dress. Skirt and top separates add to the versatile slow-fashion blend, whilst adding a belt to a linen dress, or by wearing a linen shirt-dress over pants we make our own style rules, NO rules! Wearing mostly old items from my closet, most of old and current styles are Australian designed from labels including: Country Road, Witchery, Seed Heritage, and Decjuba. For daily style tips, see my fashion page on IG: Sixty_is_the_new_40

Cheers to living the good life – we owe it to ourselves to choose happy – and to be content as our own Valentine first…

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Leaving Neverland

A new year has welcomed us into its fold, and I cannot remember when last I felt so ready to start this new chapter of life!

Much has happened during the Festive Season. For one, I became a year older, and I’d like to say I had some reservations about this new number! I’ve never liked figures but life, and business, requires one deals with basic arithmetic, which I have managed to do, miraculously. Whilst I’d rather write an essay about the importance of understanding the psychology of ants than tackle the beastly monthly budget, reality bites.

So, after contemplating this ripe new age and spending some time on examining my life, my wrongs, my rights, my joys, and my heartaches, I felt rejuvenated on the day. Why? I realised I now had far less time left on this planet than I have already had the privilege to savour, so, it was time to stop wasting time on unimportant matters and focus on the people and things that make me happy.

I was also confronted by a Machiavellian person from the past, who was creating a beleaguered situation. I was thrown off guard for a moment, then swiftly realised I did not wish to waste precious time getting entangled in unnecessary drama, so, I stepped away and erected an enormous imaginary ‘no entry’ sign. I slept like a baby that night! We do get wiser as we age, yay!

Last year was often heartbreaking as people I had loved dearly over many years departed this life too soon, whilst another soul decided to remove himself from a life he obviously felt was no longer worth living. This saddened me deeply and I could only imagine the prelude to this sudden end to life, the pain of feeling lost and alone, in fact, so desperate, that one would simply not see any light at the end of that deep, dark tunnel.

Most of us have often gone through unbearable strife and struggle, from which we may have found it difficult to escape. However, whilst many of us will always find that silver lining to eventually offer us the emotional strength to rise and rebuild our hopes and dreams from the ashes, there are souls who do not seem to have the ability to shed that darkness.

How could we ever judge such actions? Yes, we could label it ‘giving up,’ but unless we have lived in someone else’s head, we could never understand the desperation caused by that black dog.

The Festive Season always comes with good and bad news. That is life, that is reality. My darling much older sister had major surgery but being the fighting spirit that she is, she is recovering and adapting to a new lifestyle in frail care and her sense of humour remains a delight, and her timeless beauty shines through.

My dear, beautiful friend of so many years in Florida is valiantly fighting cancer, again. She is so determined to beat the dastardly big C, she cut off her luscious locks and invested in gorgeous wigs whilst enduring hellish chemotherapy. No time wasted on falling hair when she is set on positive action!

Someone recently told me about their deprived childhood, and I felt deeply saddened as the few ghastly memories I had of wrongs that were done to me in my youth seemed quite ridiculous by comparison. I immediately decided to only dwell on the past if I felt I needed to learn from it, again, or to savour sweet memories of long ago.

This privilege of ageing is to be treasured. I always felt we all had a purpose in life, and we put pressure on ourselves to keep finding the answers to why we are here in the first place. I’m no longer seeking answers as we could only get lost by dwelling in the past for too long.

We are here. This is now. A special moment, or many, could pass us by whilst we waste time reliving the past. The future is not promised but we live in hope. The now is more rewarding than Neverland.

Observing the daily stress of animals in their natural habitat will also teach us plenty. I discovered a little thrush family nesting in my small, terraced garden and I was thrilled! I wrote about these songbirds in my previous blog. I’d had them nesting in my gardens before but never had the time to observe how tough it was fighting off predatorial creatures, in this case, ravens and common mynas.

Only one of the three nestlings survived, probably because I was chasing off the killer birds at least three times a day to protect the little creature. On the day it decided to jump out of the nest, the parents were in a state and so was I as the ravens were still trying to get at it! As it leaves the nest to learn to fly, it is still vulnerable and between the two parents and I, we were on full protective watch!

After a full day of running around in the sunny garden, the little fledgeling, Tootsie, managed to hop up to the highest part of my neighbouring fence and took a short flight to test its wings, only to disappear into my next-door neighbour’s garden. I was a bloody wreck! The parents were now on higher alert as they wanted to return to the old nest in my garden but junior could not fly back as it apparently does not return to the nest once it’s left it and still learning to fly.

I interfered with nature, mea culpa, but how could I not? I discovered they liked the pellets cats eat as it is full of nutrients, so, Kiki’s food became bird food as well. I’d stand guard and give mommy and daddy enough to sustain them as they were taking turns in catching bugs in my garden to take to junior next door. It worked out and junior, after about two weeks, started bathing in my birdbath and calling me for snacks too. It had its wings!

The parents and their little survivor are more relaxed again as they are, for now, safer from danger, until, I guess, mommy starts laying eggs again. Their dedication to their offspring is remarkable and I now have a deeper understanding of the stressful lives of birds too. I tell Kiki the floof how lucky she is to live such a sheltered life as an indoor cat, with gourmet snacks served in clean crockery several times a day… okay, she does provide plenty entertainment to earn her supper, I guess.

So, as we enter 2024, I intend to be more understanding, to be free of past struggles by avoiding snollygosters, and situations I know would be pointlessly upsetting. I will continue dreaming big, whilst being endlessly grateful for the good people, loving friends and family, great opportunities, scenic surroundings, and lucky stars I’ve been favoured with. Living in the present is much more fun!

Romantic travel

A Valentines’ luxe safari is the stuff romantic dreams are made of. Celebrating love in five-star style at Tau Game Lodge has often resulted in happy couples returning to Tau from across the planet, not only to embrace love but also to celebrate and revitalise romance that withstood the test of time…

Pictured above: all accommodation and hospitality decks face the Tau Waterhole, where game and birdlife abound!

Indulge in a romantic breakfast overlooking the waterhole at the lodge after an early morning Big Five safari, sip cocktails in the bush, and dine under the stars. Then relax in the privacy of one’s room overlooking the natural waterhole, where the endless parade of game, and prolific birdlife, has enthralled lovers for some 29 years.

Fancy a swim, as it is summer, in one of the two pools, one being an infinity pool, both overlooking the waterhole?

Add a romantic spa treatment for two overlooking the verdant bush, and the mood is set for relaxation and eternal romance.

Sustainable, eco-friendly, prolific wildlife, malaria-free, the Big Five and all the smaller game in-between, with some 27 major species roaming free in this natural habitat safeguarding nature for future generations, contribute to making Tau a bucket-list safari destination.

When game stir from their afternoon siesta and either have a final frolic before nightfall, or, in the case of the nocturnal big cats, start to prepare for their big night ahead, late afternoon safari sightings are spectacular.

Before heading back to the lodge to refresh for dinner, you will stop at a perfect spot for sundowners and refreshments, always under the watchful eye of a ranger driver.

Tau is pure, understated 5-star luxury and family-friendly, offering a Cubz Club, baby-sitting services, and special safaris and education for youngsters, affording the adults some quality safari, leisure, and spa time. Memorable weddings have been hosted here over the years too.

The Tau Valentines’ packages start from R30,000 per couple for two nights, including:

  • Accommodation for 2 nights
  • 3 meals per day
  • 2 game drives per day
  • Drinks and snacks on safari drives
  • A Tau Spa Oasis African Foot Ritual (30 minutes) per adult
  • This rate is exclusive of the following:

Park Entrance fees, Rhino Conservation Levy, Tourism Levy, Bar, Mini Bar, Laundry and all extras.

To book this special package, quote: TAU Valentines 2024

The  Tau live webcam will keep you mesmerized on: http://taugamelodge.co.za/main-lodge/live-webcam/

Tau is malaria-free, an easy four-hour drive from Pretoria and Johannesburg – www.taugamelodge.co.za

Dining Out

Captn Jack’s in Somerville Cove overlooking Yaringa Boat Harbour and the mangroves is a hidden treasure! The Pacific oysters served with lemon and Champagne vinegar mignonette proved a hedonistically delicious starter, and the duck-leg pie, served with cauliflower, mushrooms and fine herbs, was a sensation. The dessert, comprising honey, vanilla and yoghurt panna cotta, blood orange and pistachio, was outstanding. The service is friendly, professional, and world-class too.

Pictured above: Dining at Captn Jack’s with tranquil views of the harbour and surrounds.

Seaford Beach Café is a favoured local eatery with sublime views of the dreamy Seaford Pier, pristine white-golden beach, and every shade of azure waters of this magnificent bay. The fresh juice choices are deliciously healthy, and I opted for the Kick Starter (apple, orange, pineapple, banana, blueberry, passionfruit, and purple carrot). The prawns medusa (juicy char-grilled tiger prawns) were served on creamy potatoes and a fresh Greek salad. Perfection!

Pictured above: Dining at Seaford Beach Café with its dreamy views of the bay.

Alatonera in McCrae proved a perfect lunch venue on my Solstice birthday and the Universe was generous! A perfect summer’s day, vistas that almost had me believe I was in Greece, with glimpses of the sandy beach through the trees, and a shared mezze platter that would have satisfied the fussiest food critic. The warm grilled pita, taramasalata, scallops, calamari, crispy crusted kataifi prawns with honey, lemon and roasted hazelnuts, zucchini and feta fritters served with lemon yoghurt were scrumptious. The cocktails are deliciously decadent, and I loved the Mum’s Marg, comprising frozen watermelon and passionfruit margarita. One more and I could have demonstrated my Greek dancing skills acquired from my Greek friends in Cape Town way back, Opa! Maybe next time…

Pictured above: dining at Alatonera with my Aussie bestie Rika, and the scenic surrounds.

Cinque Ristorante in Ringwood North, to celebrate a combined early birthday and my cousin achieving her MBA, was delightful. The authentic Italian cuisine and ambience, paired with charming service, made for a heart-warming family dinner. My choice of slow-roasted beef cheek served on carrot puree with roasted potatoes and asparagus, was perfectly succulent. My family opted for the herb and almond crusted lamb loin, parsnip puree, grilled leek, and zucchini jus, plus a side of broccolini. Not a morsal left on our plates!

Pictured above: authentic Italian dining at Cinque Ristorante.

Sofa spud

Brit Box/Prime:

Becoming Archie – the Cary Grant Story. How a rejected little boy from Bristol invented a screen idol in Hollywood. Superb.

As Time Goes By – old series with Judi Dench and Geoffrey Palmer. Witty, touching on real issues of ageing, love, family, and marriage in their mature years. Still a feel-good binge!

Always at the Carlyle (on Madison Avenue overlooking Central Park) – I walked past the hotel years ago in Manhattan and loved the subtle glamour. Discretion is key and this old-world elegance remains the home-from-home for celebrities from around the world, where musicians such as Bobby Short, Herb Albert, and Steve Tyrell, who still performs here regularly, offered classy entertainment. Celebrity guests over the years have included Lucille Ball, Mark Twain, Jackie Onassis, Harrison Ford, George Clooney, and John Hamm, who chats about the iconic location in the documentary.

We’ll Take Manhattan documents the British Invasion in the form of photographer David Bailey and Jean Shrimpton in the 60s for Vogue magazine. Having had many meetings with media over the years at Vogue House on Hanover Square in London, where the journey begins, and of course, remembering Jean Shrimpton as the first super-model I admired as a young girl, I thought the story most enjoyable. Nobody could portray The Shrimp to perfection in my eyes, but Karen Gillan did a fine job, as did Aneurin Barnard as the cockie Mr Bailey.

Trail of The Pink Panther – starring the now late great Peter Sellers as Inspector Clouseau, Joanna Lumley, Harvey Korman, David Niven and of course the priceless Herbert Lom as the crochety Chief Inspector Dreyfus. Masterfully produced by Blake Edwards, I return to these legendary movies regularly. The humour never gets old, ah, and the glamour… Steve Martin as the clumsy inspector never did it for me, sorry…

Italy’s Mystery Mountains is a superb documentary on the wild beauty of Italy, off the beaten tourism track.

Their Finest is a bittersweet drama about making movies during the Blitz. Romance, tragedy, and humour, an era portrayed brilliantly by Gemma Arteton, Bill Nighy, Sam Claflin, and Richard E Grant.

Netflix:

Your Place or Mine, a 2023 film about friendship blossoming into love, starring Reese Witherspoon and Ashton Kutcher. Believable.

The Juror, old movie starring Demi Moore and Alec Baldwin, remains a winning combination of justice and fear.

Leave the World Behind, starring Julia Roberts and Ethan Hawk – give this one a miss!

Trevor Noah, Where Was I – clever, slick, funny, and cheeky, this South African charmed the US. His vocabulary is superior to most comedians. Loved it.

Maestro – this recent release starring Bradley Cooper as the controversial composer and musical director Leonard Bernstein, is mesmerising. Carey Mulligan’s portrayal of the musician’s tough yet vulnerable wife was deeply touching. I see an Oscar for Bradley Cooper, who proved himself a worthy maestro.

A Boy Called Christmas – this became my favourite Christmas movie, released in 2021. Starring Maggie Smith and Jim Broadbeam, we are never too old to believe in the power of magic.

Binge:

What’s Love Got To Do With It – starring Lily James and Emma Thompson. A most enjoyable take on arranged marriages in the UK, falling into like, walking into love.

Man Up – starring Lake Bell and Simon Pegg. I enjoyed this blind date story about mistaken identity.

SBS:

Evil Under the Sun – the 1981 Agatha Christie film remains elegantly crafty! Peter Ustinov, James Mason, Jane Burkin, Nicholas Clay, Roddy McDowell, Maggie Smith, and Diana Rigg got it just right! Please take note, Mr Kenneth Branagh, your OTT Poirot lacks credibility.

A Most Wanted Man – setting a trap for the 9/11 master terrorism planner, starring Phillip Seymour Hoffman, Rachel McAdam, and Willem Dafoe. The 2014 movie is worth watching. We must never forget.

Styling into 2024

During the holidays I developed a close relationship with my shimmery garments, especially sequins. Never say never, right? Years ago, I vowed not to wear the glitz again as I did find it rather scratchy as I have sensitive skin.

However, I’m so pleased I kept some of my glamorous items as for some obscure reason, I no longer seem to be that sensitive wearing sequins, and it certainly elevates an outfit for a special occasion… or perhaps I’ve just grown a thicker skin, chuckles…

I have always dressed up for Christmas dinner as it was customary in my family, who believed it was showing respect to a special time of year. I’m not giving it up, unless I get an invitation specifying a themed party that excludes glamour.

Urgh, some might say, sequins are so Vegas and vulgar. My answer? It depends on your personal style as it need not look like a Follies Bergere extravaganza. We’re not talking nipple caps and shiny tassels.

Summer holiday dressing has my full attention and I’m lapping up every moment, from ice-cream pink linen outfits to silky soft tunics, which also work with shiny pants to glamorise an ordinary outfit for a Riviera-inspired occasion.

Having turned a certain age, I no longer care what people think of my style. I dress for me, and I wear whatever I think fits the occasion. I recently showed up at a dinner wearing black sequin pants, sequin mules, and a Ferrari-red draped top, complete with red and black tassel earrings – they were on my ears! I felt great. When I saw the expression on the host’s face, that look of total astonishment, I took it as a compliment.

Feeling confident in our skin, which also happens to be what we wear on it, is key to always feeling fabulous – own it.

For daily updates on style, pop to my Instagram page @Sixty_is_the_new_40 – and for further monthly style inspiration, see my current monthly article at https://startsat60.com/media/lifestyle/style/festive-fashion-elevate-your-holiday-wardrobe-with-ease

Pictured above: from the top, left to right: white linen pants worn with a silk and lace camisole – add a (faux) animal print jacket and it has a chic edge; go all white as it stands out in a crowd of black; an old light-wool black pantsuit with a subtle olive-green sequin top; a transparent blue linen shirt worn over a gold halter top and jeans; black and white stripes never date – just add a dash of colour if you like; the colourful silk Fella Hamilton tunic is ideal with the button-hem pants and would work well with white shimmer pants too; pants with a matching sleeveless trench coat will do the trick on cooler days; add a cotton tie shirt to a pair of pants for a trendy statement – or wear a halter top and summer wrap cardigan for a layered colour-coordinated look; the pink linen palazzo pants are old and this strapless linen top from Seed Heritage proved a perfect match – add a linen shirt for casual chic or one could easily mix it up with shiny items or black for a more dressy occasion.

Cheers to the goodlife and a sparkling New Year. Embracing it with enthusiasm and wisdom is my intention… and I hope it delivers exactly what we all need, as well as more love and understanding…